are you choosing 'not at all'?

As many of you have probably heard, many many times, I want desperately to be a runner. And there are a few hurdles in this plan:

  • I'm not great at running.

  • I have a chronic illness that flares and sometimes my body isn't up to running.

  • It's hard to run in the rain, and when it's hot, and when it's cold, and when you're tired, and when you're hyped up.....

  • etc

And so, for the 1920834208 time, I embarked on the couch to 5 k plan. So reasonable! I have a target 5k date and I'm training and then a few things happened, and I missed a week.

So yesterday, I put it on my calendar and in my A column in my to-do list - the "you gotta do it, or else" column. And I realized that what was holding me back was not that I missed a few runs, or that even that I might not be able to run the whole 5k in September without stopping, but that I wasn't "perfect" with the training, which itself, is flexible.

My brain would rather give up on the whole plan together than do it less than 100% perfectly. 

And whoooo, is that a pattern that my brain likes to invite me into. Better not to do it than have to work at it. Better not to do it than to do it 80%, or 60%. Better focus on the things that I'm already crushing than spend "all that energy" on things that are hard. 

So I'm trying to focus on being "joyfully intermediate". I want to enjoy the path between the beginning and the end state - I want to think of that space before something is perfect, or done, or good enough as a part of the process, and not just something I have to hold my breath and survive until I can be more comfortably high achieving. 

It's hard. It was a hard run. But the next run will be easier because I'm back trying to run again. There might not be meteoric progress between 0% running and 100% running, but there will be movement and change and growth and learning, and that's also good stuff. 

working with avoidance

schedule like you love yourself

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